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Study links caring only for others, not oneself, to lower well-being

A new study from McGill University discovered that neglecting one's own needs while prioritizing others is associated with reduced well-being and may not be sustainable, Phys.org reports.

Bassam Khoury, associate professor in the Department of Educational and Counselling Psychology at McGill and the study's lead author, said many caregivers, educators, health professionals, parents and activists show warmth to others while treating themselves harshly, and that such self-criticism may contribute to diminished psychological well-being, according to Phys.org and CityNews Montreal.

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Six compassion profiles emerge from 1,200 survey responses#

Khoury worked with Rodrigo Vergara of the Universidad Metropolitana de Ciencias de la Educación and the Centro Nacional De Inteligencia Artificial in Santiago, Chile, surveying more than 1,200 Canadians on compassion toward other people, animals and themselves, along with compassionate thoughts and actions, Phys.org reports.

The team sorted respondents into six compassion profiles and correlated each with measures including stress, anxiety, depression, emotional regulation and well-being, according to Phys.org and CityNews Montreal.

Those who showed compassion across all three targets, other people, animals and themselves, had the best psychological functioning and highest well-being, Khoury said, per Phys.org.

Self-compassion, defined by kindness and mindfulness#

Khoury said self-compassion may help people regulate difficult emotions, cut self-criticism and build a sense of inner safety, adding that it is not selfish but a foundation for sustaining care toward others and extending compassion to all sentient beings, according to Phys.org and CityNews Montreal.

Psychologist Kristin Neff defined self-compassion as made up of self-kindness, common humanity and mindfulness, according to a Wikipedia entry on the concept; self-kindness means responding to pain with warmth rather than self-criticism, common humanity means recognizing suffering as shared, and mindfulness means observing negative emotions without suppressing or exaggerating them.

CityNews Montreal reports that the researchers plan to look into more diverse samples in future work.

Earlier research on self-kindness and psychological richness#

Separate research led by Yuening Liu and colleagues at Shaanxi Normal University, published in Applied Psychology: Health and Well-Being, found that teenagers who practiced self-kindness were more likely to develop a psychologically rich life over time, according to PsyPost.

That study's network analysis found that feeling isolated at an earlier point predicted higher self-judgment later, a pattern PsyPost describes as a negative cycle in which loneliness leads to being harder on oneself.

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